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Showing posts with label transsexual. Show all posts
Showing posts with label transsexual. Show all posts

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Trans Body Blessing

I've been thinking a lot about what I, in my role as Priest/ess of the Body-Temple, can offer to the large portion of the trans population that experiences body disphoria. I want to acknowledge, first of all, that I don't experience body disphoria. It is thus difficult for me to really get into peoples' heads and hearts to discover what they need. I've done my best through personal conversations and research. If you feel I've been disrespectful, please do contact me so I can do my best to address your concerns and make amends.

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Archetypes

I've been thinking recently about what archetypes might be of service for trans* folks. What bridges our life experiences, speaks to different stages we grow through, touches both transsexual women and men and those of us with non-binary gender identities? The results of my musings are hard to swallow in places, but that seems about right. Being trans* is hard at times, too.

Traitor

Many of us begin our journey by being accused, either overtly or subtly, of being traitors. We are called traitors to our gender, to what it means to be a man or a woman, to our communities, to feminism, and sometimes to our sexual orientations. Transmen who love women are particularly vulnerable to this last accusation.

So what is there to celebrate about being a traitor? I look to mythology to give me a broader picture. Prometheus, who brought fire to humanity, was no doubt called a traitor. When Inanna kept the me (divine powers) that Enki gave her while intoxicated, or when Isis forced Ra to giver her his secret name, betraying the trust those gods had in them, they acted as traitors. To be a traitor is to betray something or someone. In these myths, we see that to be a traitor is to be a revolutionary, to overthrow or threaten the current power structure.

To embody the archetype of the Traitor as a trans* person means to question whose power we are being asked to uphold. It means to acknowledge that, YES, actually, in many ways we are betraying the gender binary. It means to be a wedge, a hammer, creating cracks through which others might see that they are walled in. It means giving others space to question what they support and why. It means doing all of that from a place of deep integrity with the intent of doing good.

Trickster

A lot of us hear "trickster" as well. Gender tricksters are not what we seem. What's under our clothes and especially what is in our pants is a surprise. We are fakers somehow, illusionists intent on messing people up. The voices that call us tricksters most loudly are those that are outraged.

Many mythological tricksters do not blindly cause mayhem. They have specific targets. The fey who whisk away greedy mortals for a night of dancing that turns out to be a century in the human world are tricksters. Rabbit feigning fear of Coyote to lure him into defeat is a trickster. Hermes trading his lyre to Apollo in return for the cattle Hermes had stolen and a share of Apollo's power is a trickster. Odysseus claiming to be Nobody to the Cyclops is a trickster. Tricksters take on the arrogant, the power hungry, those who are too certain of themselves and what they deserve from the world.

To be a trans* Trickster is to acknowledge that we unmoor gender from its fixed point. We are a sign that sex and gender don't always align, or even conform to binary categories. We are not fooling anyone about who we are, though. Rather, people are fooling themselves. We are (or at least, I am) not trying to pass as something other than what we are. We are just living our truths. Our targets create themselves. How people choose to read us is up to them. Their outrage is the result of finding out that their assumptions were wrong. It is on them, not us, to come to terms with this newly revealed world.

Shapechanger

Many of us literally change our shapes, making additions or subtractions to the upstairs and downstairs, as it were. We take hormones to harden or soften our lines. Others of us use more temporary means: binders, carefully glued hair, the cut of our clothes, soft or hard packs, make-up, and body language to pull people's perceptions one way or the other.

Shapechangers abound in mythology. Loki, who brings the end, appears as both male and female. A number of mortals, male and female alike, have their shape changed in Greek mythology as punishment, to escape an untenable situation, or as a sign of respect for their life. Cerridwen changes shape in the pursuit of Talisman and in the end consumes him and rebirths him with many gifts.

Changing shapes signifies an end to one thing and a beginning to another. It is a new life. Shapechangers also bring to the forefront of our awareness the connectedness between human beings and animals and plants.

Embodying the Shapechanger archetype as trans* person means holding space for all people to change. It means recognizing the subtler shifts in gender expression in ourselves and others. It means giving people space (physical, emotional, psychic) to not be something anymore and instead to be something new.

Outsider

There are, in straight up numbers, not very many of us. Statistics suggest 3% of the population is trans. In queer communities, which are generally more welcoming than straight ones, we are still on the outside. As one person put it, we are the Gl(b)t community. If we are recognized as trans*, many doors are shut to us.

Pagans, too, are outsiders. We have been the old woman at the edge of the village, the medicine man who goes into the forest, the monk on the mountain top. We pagans know the power of crossroads, of being outside the normal stream of things. Many circle castings include some variation of the words, "In a space outside space and a time outside time."

Trans* Outsiders consider the unique gifts we have to offer our communities. We take the time to see patterns invisible from the inside and call attention to them. We tap the medicines and knowledge from the wild places accessible to us through our unique positions. We gather together to share and celebrate. We are deeply rooted in our sense of Mystery.

These archetypes will not resonate for everyone. They were drawn from my personal experience as a genderqueer pagan and from conversations with others in the pagan and trans* communities. In grand pagan tradition, please disregard what doesn't work for you. Or, better, figure out what does work for you and share it. The more options trans* pagans have to draw from, the better!

What archetypes resonate for you? Share in the comments.

Monday, June 2, 2014

The Gender Book! Is Out! In the World! NOW!

Two faces smiled down from a large screen in a corner of San Francisco's Center for Sex and Culture. Jay Mays and Robin Mack, two if the three main creators of The Gender Book, had beamed their gleeful mugs across cyberspace to help celebrate the birth of this fine publication. "It's a book!" (That's a gender joke, get it?) The third creator, artist Mel Reiff Hill, stood on the low stage with a microphone, facilitating a Q&A.

"How did this book come to be?"

Mel described how their boyfriend "paid to teach his therapist about gender." After spending his session laying down the basics of this fundamental subject of life, he wished he could've simply handed the doctor a book and say, "Read chapter 6— see ya next week!" But that book on gender did not exist. So he brought this concern to his friends and the friends said, "Let's make one!"

And what a gorgeous book they've made. With it's large, slick, colorful pages and graphic novel design it looks a lot like a children's storybook. The team say they wrote it for the broadest range of ages possible, attempting to keep the language plain and simple. Indeed, this book is so attractive and friendly, I can imagine it crossing many thresholds into spaces that have never before questioned mainstream gender norms.

Attendees sat around the balloon-festooned room at tables covered with crayons and activity pages, munching on snacks segregated by glutenousness. The atmosphere was relaxed and playful—even slightly giddy—catalysing conversations amongst strangers expressing a wide range of genders. I wondered why the room wasn't packed to the brim, though, because I certainly felt like I was witnessing one of the most important moments in cultural history. Mel says the book's release is just the beginning, and now what they want to see is how people USE it. "Don't just put it on a shelf. Read it, give it away, talk about it."

In an OutSmart interview, Jay Mays reports that the Gender Book team will be participating in the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference this June, "to connect with others who also want to ease the burden of trans* folks having to educate their health professionals." Right on!

As a contributor to their wildly successful Indiegogo campaign, I had a stack of Gender Books waiting for me at the merch table. I nearly knocked Mel over in my eagerness to get mine all signed. They grinned calmly as I explained that I was a Priest/ess in a Bay Area coven and as I frothed all about our Beyond the Binary and Trans*/Pagan endeavors in a sort of star-struck way, and then they amiably signed one "To CAYA Coven." I even got a fancy creature in a shimmery outfit to snap this photo of Mel & I. Can you tell how excited I am?!?!?!?!
Gender Scouts unite!

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Trans*/Pagan Events March 2014



A periodical events round-up focusing on that which may be of interest to people who identify as Trans* and Pagan, radiating from a central point in the San Francisco Bay Area and extending Worldwide. Maintained by Jaina Bee, a Priest/ess of CAYA Coven, San Francisco Bay Area, CA, USA, Earth.


I'm dedicating this first events post to Kate Bornstein, who celebrates her 66th birthday today! Blessings to Kate and her family, with sparkling heaps of gratitude for all love and light she has brought into the world.


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Transmagic at Lavender Youth Recreation and Information Center
Tuesday, March 18, 4-5pm (recurring weekly)
LYRIC, 127 Collingwood St, San Francisco, CA
FREE
Contact: Charles Stevens, 415.703.6150 x18 charles@lyric.org

Transmagic is a LYRIC Community Building Group celebrating young trans* and gender-variant youth (24 and under) and their allies.

LYRIC’s programs are open to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning (LGBTQQ) youth and allies (24 and younger). If you are a youth and would like to become involved in any of our programs, the first step is to schedule a New Participant Orientation. Call (415.703.6150 x10), or email (lyricinfo@lyric.org) LYRIC to schedule an orientation. Orientations are typically held Monday-Friday, 2:00-3:30pm.

LYRIC’s mission is to build community and inspire positive social change through education enhancement, career trainings, health promotion, and leadership development with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning (LGBTQQ) youth, their families, and allies of all races, classes, genders, and abilities.

LYRIC’s vision is a diverse society where LGBTQQ youth are embraced for who they are and encouraged to be who they want to be. By working towards social justice and supporting young leaders, their families and allies, LYRIC is building a world that honors, respects and appreciates LGBTQQ youth and their contributions.

http://lyric.org/
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InsideStoryTime: Physician Heal Thyself
Tuesday, March 18, 7:30-9:30pm
La Movida Wine Bar & Community Kitchen, 3066 24th St., San Francisco
Free!
 
This "monthly reading series with a twist" features a different theme each time. This month's bill will feature practitioner of narrative medicine Louise Aronson (A History of the Present Illness), immortality-seeking volcano boarder Zoltan Istvan (The Transhumanist Wager), shattered poet Jen Siraganian (Fracture), transgendered iron worker and comedienne Morgan (Morgan's Funny), and seeker after truth Dorinda Vassigh (contributor to The Day My Nipple Fell Off anthology). MCd by James Warner (All Her Father's Guns).
 
http://www.insidestorytime.com/


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Ain’t I A Woman? My Journey to Womanhood with Laverne Cox
Wednesday, March 19, 2014, 7:00pm

Nourse Theatre, 275 Hayes Street, San Francisco, CA

$25/$35/$50
$75 ticket price includes reception with the artist
Buy Tickets

Laverne Cox explores how the intersections of race, class, and gender uniquely affect the lives of trans women of color. Laverne draws from her own personal story and how issues of race, class, and gender affect how she has been able to navigate the world. From growing up in Mobile, Alabama, raised by a single mother in a Christian family, to attending college in New York City to pursue a career as an actress, to finally finding the courage to step into the womanhood she always knew at heart was her destiny, Cox tells the story of the unique challenges along her journey to womanhood, professional achievement, self-acceptance, and love.

Cox is the first African-American trans woman to produce and star in her own television show, VH1′s critically acclaimed TRANSForm Me. TRANSform Me was nominated for a GLAAD media award for Outstanding Reality Program in 2011 and was the first television show to star three transsexual women. Cox made television history when she became the first African-American trans woman to appear on a reality television program, VH1′s I Wanna Work for Diddy in 2008. She accepted the GLAAD media award for Outstanding Reality Program for I Want to Work for Diddy in 2009.
Cox was named as one of the most influential trans people in America in the inaugural Trans 100 in 2013. She was named one of the top 50 trans icons by the Huffington Post in 2012. Laverne was named one of Out magazine’s “Out 100″ in 2010. Metro Source magazine named her one of the “55 People We Love” in 2008.
https://lyon-martin.org/event/aint-i-a-woman-my-journey-to-womanhood-with-laverne-cox/ 


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Reclaiming Spring Equinox Ritual—San Francisco
Saturday, March 22, 1pm
Magic Meadow, Golden Gate Park, San Francisco, CA
Free; donations gratefully accepted

Intention: As we ply the Fool's craft, we work a spell for Justice
Join us as the Wheel of the Year turns toward the sunshine. Rain or shine, it will be a beautiful day in Golden Gate Park. 

This ritual especially involves young people, and includes an egg-hunt for kids afterwards. Please bring food or non-alcohol drinks to share at post-ritual feast. Flowers and musical instruments are also welcome.
Wheelchair access via paved path from parking lot. Field itself can be swampy after heavy rain. 

Transit: BART to Civic Center, transfer to Muni N-Judah train. Take train to Judah and 40th, walk two blocks to park, enter at 41st Ave. Walk two short blocks into park, enter parking lot on right, look for Pagans and/or signs. We're usually straight ahead in the big meadow. (Drivers - enter at 41st and Lincoln, park in lot.)

http://reclaiming.org/ 
find a Reclaiming community near you: http://reclaiming.org/worldwide/index.html#Anchor-Reclaimin-64672
 
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Equinox of Joyful Vows with CAYA Coven
Saturday, March 22, 7pm
The Home of Truth, 1300 Grand St, Alamenda, CA
$10-20 donation requested, no one turned away for lack of funds.

Come As You Are Coven, is an open, eclectic, drop-in coven providing community rituals in the San Francisco Bay area. Perhaps you are a curious seeker, perhaps an experienced practitioner. If you wish to contribute your own unique, authentic, and benevolent beliefs to a community that is accepting, empowering, diplomatic, ethical and fair, then Come As You Are and be welcome. 

 http://cayacoven.org/


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Reclaiming Spring Equinox Ritual—North Bay
Sunday 23 March, doors at 3:30pm, ritual at 4pm
Ragle Ranch Regional Park, Lions Grove Picnic Area, 500 Ragle Road, Sebastopol, CA
Suggested donation is $30-$10 but no one will be turned away for lack of funds. Funds to help support North Bay Reclaiming events. 

Join us for the North Bay Reclaiming Ostara/Spring Equinox Ritual. As the wheel turns, we come as the children of Spring to dance with the Fae.



Intention: The Rabbits say rejoice with the Spring and tend to the Earth.
Celebrate with us welcoming Rabbit and Springtime with songs, spirals and an Egg Hunt. So much fun for children of all ages! Please bring a basket to collect eggs in.

For more information, email NorthBayReclaiming@yahoo.com or call 707-484-7786.
Website: www.northbayreclaiming.org
find a Reclaiming community near you: http://reclaiming.org/worldwide/index.html#Anchor-Reclaimin-64672 
 
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Erotic Reading Circle
Wednesday, March 26, 7:30pm – 9:30pm (recurring every 4th Wednesday)
Center for Sex and Culture, 1349 Mission Street (at Grace Street between 9th and 10th streets) in San Francisco (map)
$5 suggested donation
Come share new or old work with us! We listen non-judgmentally and share our responses with any writer/reader who feels s/he/ze can benefit from peers' feedback. And it's great practice if you've been thinking about doing any public readings. We welcome writers of any experience level and every orientation. A Best of the Bay award-winning event!
Facilitated by Jen Cross (of Writing Ourselves Whole) and Carol Queen 
http://www.sexandculture.org/ 
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Every Direction LIVE!
Thursday, March 27, doors at 9pm
El Rio, 3158 Mission St, San Francisco, CA
Cover $5-20 sliding scale, to benefit Lyon-Martin Health Services

Every Direction is an Oakland-based queer boi band/drag group covering One Direction. Featured with the Rebel Kings and making their San Francisco debut, these bois will surely steal your heart, bringing something upbeat, silly, somewhat wholesome, and just ridiculously cute to the queer community.
Check out their most recent video!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6hsAMgAofAw

>>> DANCING with DJ DasGigler!
>>> One Direction TRIVIA
>>> Raffle PRIZES
>>> FREE CHAIR MESSAGES by dana schnittman! (http://www.danaschnittman.com/)
>>> and more to come!

 
Bring your friends! Bring your mom!

Lyon-Martin Health Services provides excellent health care to women, lesbians and transgender people in a safe and compassionate environment, with sensitivity to sexual orientation and gender identity; all services are regardless of ability to pay. Find out more at http://lyon-martin.org/!!



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Writers With Drinks
Saturday, March 29, 7-9pm, doors open at 6pm
At the Elbo Room, 647 Valencia St., San Francisco, CA
Cost: $10 to $20, no-one turned away
All proceeds benefit the Transgender Law Center and the Center for Sex and Culture
Writers With Drinks combines erotica with literature, stand-up comedy with science fiction and poetry with essays. Plus mystery, romance, memoir, rants and "other."
Janet Mock (Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More)
Ayelet Waldman (Love and Treasure)
Annalee Newitz (Scatter, Adapt and Remember: How to Survive a Mass Extinction)
Marga Gomez (Love Birds)
Marie Brennan (A Natural History of Dragons)
http://transgenderlawcenter.org/
http://www.sexandculture.org/

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Lake Merritt Pagans
Sunday, March 30, 5:30pm
The Sacred Well,  536 Grand Ave, Oakland, CA
Free

A group for Pagans of all stripes who live near Lake Merritt to socialize and touch base about life on the lake in all its aspects, practical and spiritual. Activities may include: full moon lake walks, altar building, and other ideas you bring!
http://www.sacredwell.com/classes-events

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Transgender Day of Visibility: A Celebration of Trans* Lives
Monday, March 31, 5-8pm
SF LGBT Community Center, 1800 Market St, Rainbow Room, San Francisco, CA

The Bay Area TDoV 2014 is a trans* community event to celebrate our accomplishments and inspire future change.  The evening will include empowering and uplifting presentations from community leaders, LYRIC, Larkin Street Youth, the Center’s Trans Employment Program (TEEI), and the Transgender Law Center.
We deserve to throw ourselves a party!* Complimentary Hors d’oeuvres and Beverages will be offered, and our special guest DJ Alexndr will spin a set to transform the Rainbow Room into our own private dance hall!

* TDoV is a substance-free and family friendly event.

History of TDoV:
The International TDoV is an annual holiday dedicated to celebrating transgender/ gender non-conforming people and raising awareness of discrimination faced by transgender people worldwide. The holiday was founded by Rachel Crandall in 2009 as a reaction to the lack of LGBT holidays celebrating transgender people, citing the frustration that the only well-known transgender-centered holiday is the Transgender Day of Remembrance, which mourns the loss of trans* people to hate crimes, but does not acknowledge and celebrate living members of the transgender community.

Events surrounding the day include protests, actions, sit-ins, poetry events, social events and a variety of other activities that emphasize the importance of trans* visibility is in our communities locally and abroad. TDoV exists to build community, celebrate what we have accomplished, and inspire future change. 

Thank you for supporting your local TDoV celebration! #TDoV

https://lyon-martin.org/event/transgender-day-of-visibility-2014/
http://www.sfcenter.org/

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UPCOMING EVENTS: Pencil it in, register, get ready!!!

Sex Magick 169: Transcending the Boundaries of Intimacy
A Faerie Sex Magick Workshop for gay cis- and transmen
May 31-June 7
Dos Rios, CA (more details upon registration)
$550-850 (€500-750) for the entire 7 days.

Price includes meals and accommodation — tent camping. There may be some indoor spaces for those with special needs or for colder weather workshops.

Consider these questions…
How can I extend the limits of my intimacy with my Faerie/Billy brothers?
Does sex constrain or expand my relationships with men?
How can I integrate sexual play into my intimate relationships?
Does recreational sex diminish my capacity for intimacy in a committed relationship?
How does the prevailing society’s prudishness dampen and undermine the intimacy in my relationships?
How does my sexuality and my spirituality inter-relate?
Are my sexual and my spiritual aspects one in the same?

We welcome your questions and discussion of any possible concerns you might have. In order to participate we ask you to contact one of the facilitators.

More info and registration: http://faeriesexmagick.org/index.html



Sunday, November 10, 2013

On this Transgender Day of Remembrance we humbly offer our service to the Divine

The Transgender Day of Remembrance occurs every November 20 to memorialize people who were murdered as a result of transphobia. "Although not every person represented during the Day of Remembrance self-identified as transgender — that is, as a transsexual, crossdresser, or otherwise gender-variant — each was a victim of violence based on bias against transgender people."—quoted from transgenderdor.org


Hail our Beloved and Honored Ancestors!
With deep respect and affection, the members of Beyond the Binary offer our gratitude, today and every day, to all of the brave and wonderful Ancestors who did not fit into the gender expectations of their time and place. Their trials and victories serve as true inspiration for us. We strive to honor the memory of their light by taking up the mantle of working towards the acceptance, honoring, and respect of all lives in this world.  We pray for these Ancestors' benevolent guidance as we accept stewardship of this work to help integrate all genders into a loving union in service to Deity. Blessed be.

Who Are We?
Beyond the Binary is a newly-hatched group within CAYA Coven, formed of our public Priest/esses, charged with furthering the work of CAYA Coven towards a more proactive inclusion of people who self-identify beyond the gender binary in the spiritual and magical work that we do. We most definitely invite people of every gender to participate as we move together through uncharted realms of language, identity and spiritual practice.

Though the discussion of gender inclusiveness in Pagan practice began long ago, and we anticipate it will continue indefinitely, we, the members of Beyond the Binary, intend to spend the coming year making connections and alliances with other groups and individuals who share this concern, to participate in events that support and celebrate diverse gender identities, and to report and discuss our observations here in this public blog. Our longterm vision is to provide sacred service to gender variant people and communities.

With Love and Respect,
Beyond the Binary

Strega Manea Trinacria, High Priestess of Wild Magic
Q'desha Yansumi Diwata, High Priestess of Musical Ecstacy
Gatekeeper Jey, High Priest of Doorways and Crossroads
Juniper, Priestess of Psychosynthesis
Melissa ra Karit, Priest/ess of the Body-Temple
Jaina Bee, 2014 Wildflower Priest/ess Initiate
owl of love, 2014 Wildflower Priest/ess Initiate